God is the same yesterday, today and forever!!! Hallelujah, if He weren't how could I count on Him? So often, I find myself counting on other people and getting disappointed, and then God reminds me so gently that people are fallible and will let me down. It's not fair to that person for me to have unrealistic expectations. I was reminded yesterday, that the only one I can truly count on and never be disappointed is God!
So, today I go through my list and remind myself and God that I am indeed counting on Him! We are living in a battle that is not of this world, and God has already proclaimed victory over this battle. I will count on God, and God alone!
What are you Counting on God For?
Monday, May 31, 2010
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Fruit of the Spirit
We all know the words of it, but do we really understand what it means to have the fruit of the Spirit.
I'm going to take them one at a time (cause that's about all I can handle, unless I've really had a lot of Spark!):
Love: love comes in many forms, even in the Bible the Greek translation for love can be very different. For example, the Greek language has 4 words for love: eros, storge, philia and agape. Since the NT was written originally in Greek, I think it is wise to know well the meaning of each of these.
Eros=love=this is the word that we get erotic from. It is basically that animal attraction kind of love. It is the sensual kind of love or romantic love.
Storge=love=committed love, love between family and/or friends/familial love.
Philia=love=good Samaritan kind of love/brotherly love
Agape=love=the highest form, unconditional love
I believe that the type of love that we possess when we are portraying the fruit of the Spirit is agape love. As I was studying the word meanings for each of these, I noticed that agape got the most written about it. It is the most difficult for us to achieve. I believe that is because society does everything to steer us away from this kind of love. Certainly we are always asked to have philia love, by helping others, we naturally possess storge love for our spouse, children, parents, etc. and eros love is also a natural instinct that appears to come once our hormones develop.
So, as I strive to be more like Jesus, I will keep my mind centered around agape love and more importantly start showing my agape fruit at home. We CAN change the world, however we MUST start at home. what kind of witness would I be if I was mean, selfish, distant or non-communicative at home, then went out and tried to be God's hands and feat in the community? What would people have thought of Jesus if he was short tempered and distant to the disciples and then went out and loved on others? They would have thought he was a hypocrite!
Lord, give me the strength to bloom fresh with your agape love! This love can only come from You! Until I put my life continually in the control of the Holy Spirit which have so gracefully left within me, I will never be able to reach this high form of love that you desire for each of us. show me when my fruit is starting to wilt. Open my eyes that I may see as You see Lord.
Lord, thank you for the Spirit is there always, will guide me when I ask and that wants to live in and through me to glorify You!
Your humble servant,
Jenni
I'm going to take them one at a time (cause that's about all I can handle, unless I've really had a lot of Spark!):
Love: love comes in many forms, even in the Bible the Greek translation for love can be very different. For example, the Greek language has 4 words for love: eros, storge, philia and agape. Since the NT was written originally in Greek, I think it is wise to know well the meaning of each of these.
Eros=love=this is the word that we get erotic from. It is basically that animal attraction kind of love. It is the sensual kind of love or romantic love.
Storge=love=committed love, love between family and/or friends/familial love.
Philia=love=good Samaritan kind of love/brotherly love
Agape=love=the highest form, unconditional love
I believe that the type of love that we possess when we are portraying the fruit of the Spirit is agape love. As I was studying the word meanings for each of these, I noticed that agape got the most written about it. It is the most difficult for us to achieve. I believe that is because society does everything to steer us away from this kind of love. Certainly we are always asked to have philia love, by helping others, we naturally possess storge love for our spouse, children, parents, etc. and eros love is also a natural instinct that appears to come once our hormones develop.
So, as I strive to be more like Jesus, I will keep my mind centered around agape love and more importantly start showing my agape fruit at home. We CAN change the world, however we MUST start at home. what kind of witness would I be if I was mean, selfish, distant or non-communicative at home, then went out and tried to be God's hands and feat in the community? What would people have thought of Jesus if he was short tempered and distant to the disciples and then went out and loved on others? They would have thought he was a hypocrite!
Lord, give me the strength to bloom fresh with your agape love! This love can only come from You! Until I put my life continually in the control of the Holy Spirit which have so gracefully left within me, I will never be able to reach this high form of love that you desire for each of us. show me when my fruit is starting to wilt. Open my eyes that I may see as You see Lord.
Lord, thank you for the Spirit is there always, will guide me when I ask and that wants to live in and through me to glorify You!
Your humble servant,
Jenni
Monday, March 15, 2010
Paths
Ever wonder why God talks about paths so often. It seems everywhere I turn He is talking about one's path. In Proverbs 14 He says "Those who follow the right path fear the Lord". Hmm, fear the Lord? that's always been a bit confusing to me. So today, I'll look it up. One definition is "a feeling of anticipation or anxiety caused by the presence or imminense of danger". Surely, that cannot be what God is referring to. Why would we take a path that causes us to feel the imminense of danger? I think God wants us to unpack this on our own. Everyone's reaction to fear is different but at it's core, how do we react when we are afraid of something. Our sense become more acute, we listen more intently, we look around noticing everything that surrounds us, we take it all in trying to determine our next step. Maybe God is saying that when are His we are to stop, take it all in and plan our next step for "fear" that we may take a wrong step. God wants us to keep our eyes on Him, looking to Him for our next steps yet being aware of our surroundings so as to never cause another to stumble and fall. Perhaps God is telling us that when we are the right path we will be more concerned with Him than ourselves. fear often gives a sort of "out of body" experience where we go beyond our self. Maybe, God is telling us that when we fear Him we will move beyond ourself and we will be consumed with Him. I've always thought of this word in the Bible as more representative of reverence however in doing the word search this morning I can't really find that as a translation. the funny thing is not matter how I search it, I can't even find a Greek word for fear. That makes me think either the translation has been obscured in some way or that God truly wants us to unpack this for ourselves. Since the Bible is God's unblemished word and since He allowed the translation over the years, I have to believe and have faith that this word "fear" is not a mistake and that God allowed it's use. Therefore, we know that God doesn't want us shaking in our shoes, and He doesn't expect us to take a path that leads to Freddie Kruger, so the fear of God, must be something way cooler. It must be something that brings us closer to Him.
I think I'm going to think on this for another day or so and come back to it. I love how God's Word challenges me and brings me to new heights.
But, for today, I will choose the path that causes me to fear my Lord!
Under His grace and presence,
Jenni
I think I'm going to think on this for another day or so and come back to it. I love how God's Word challenges me and brings me to new heights.
But, for today, I will choose the path that causes me to fear my Lord!
Under His grace and presence,
Jenni
Thursday, March 4, 2010
Perspective
Over the past few days I've been a little consumed with the idea of perspective. Answers.com defines perspective as "a mental view, the subjective evaluation of a relative significance. Along with the idea of perspective, God has continuously led me to Proverbs 3:3. We all know it, it's the verse that tells us to lean not on our own understanding. Particularly in context of today's entry, I feel like God is telling to stop putting my perspective on issues, but to look through His lenses. When I can get out of my own little world and my own finite mind, and see past what has offended me or what is breaking my heart, I can often times handle the world around me much better. Sometimes, He may be saying not necessarily to look at things from His perspective but from the other person's perspective. We define our own reality through our perspective unless we can move beyond that into someone else's perspective. take for instance (an easy example), I love, love, love my new jeans (I don't even have new jeans, but I remember when I got my first pair of Lucky's and I felt "Lucky", I loved them so much!) but when I come home my daughter says "OOOH MOM!!! Did you really spend money for those?" what then do I do? Do I continue to where them because from MY perspective I "love, love, love" them, or do I re evaluate? Maybe, I love them so much because the sales person was telling my how skinny I looked in them, how amazingly younger they made me look and I developed that salesperson's perspective by the power of influence, or maybe I just love them because they are new and I paid too much money for a pair of silly jeans. However, when others just take a glance my way, they may see that they are actually too tight, they shouldn't be worn by someone over the age of 20 or they just don't look good on my body type. If I can look past my own perspective and take my daughter's into account, I may be far better off and save myself a ton of embarrassment.
When God calls us to humble ourselves, I believe He means in every area. We are not God, thus our perspective is not always right. To be humble is to "show differential or submissive respect"....OUCH... submissive respect. What's up with that? It seems like it all goes back to the "R" word again. Respect. It's all come full circle again. I take my eyes off of myself, I do not focus on my own understanding, I humble myself in all circumstances and perhaps I'm getting closer to the Godly respect that He is asking from me.
Hmmmm. Points to ponder for the day ahead.
When God calls us to humble ourselves, I believe He means in every area. We are not God, thus our perspective is not always right. To be humble is to "show differential or submissive respect"....OUCH... submissive respect. What's up with that? It seems like it all goes back to the "R" word again. Respect. It's all come full circle again. I take my eyes off of myself, I do not focus on my own understanding, I humble myself in all circumstances and perhaps I'm getting closer to the Godly respect that He is asking from me.
Hmmmm. Points to ponder for the day ahead.
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Trust in the Lord
Some days I feel so burdened by everyone I know who is hurting so deeply. Today I am reminded that Proverbs 3:3 says "Trust in the Lord and do not depend on your own understanding". Wow!! Seems so simple yet it is so profound. As I sit here asking God "why her?", "why that one?", "what could your purpose possibly be in that", He reminds me to get out of my worldly head and focus my eyes on Him. Then I go to II Samuel 11-13.... OK, how does this work? David, the mightiest kind so far in all of the Israel, whom God says is a man after his own heart, gets so caught up in himself he takes Bathsheeba for himself and then is afraid he's going to get caught so he has her husband killed! How often, do I do wrong and then think I can hide from God? that mindset is so crazy when I know that I know that God knows and sees ALL, yet I still sometimes try to hide. Or, how about this, I try to cover it up like David did. I tell myself, " Well, I know I did this wrong, the Lord will hopefully forgive me (notice I haven't even asked God to forgive me yet, nor had David), but maybe if I just do this really good thing, I'll just not have to deal with the consequences of my sin." I don't think God works like that (and we shouldn't either as parants). When David is busted (when Nathan brings to light that God knows exactly what he has done), David repents (that should be my first thought after I realize I've messed up), but God tells David there will be consequences. No matter how much David fasted, prayed, probably begged God, God still punished David. When we do wrong, we need to be punished (just like our kids do) so that we will remember the error of out ways and not return to "our own vomit" like those of the world do. Then......it struck me like a ton of bricks.. Our God is so abundantly good! As soon as the baby dies that was a result from David's sin, God blesses he and Bathsheeba with another son. Not just any son, but the son who is going to be even greater than David as a leader, they have the future king Solomon!! How good is out God? So good, that even when we, His children, mess up, He still loves us and has so many blessings set aside for us. All He asks of us is to repent, acknowledge Him and turn from our sinful ways. How often I look at my circumstances and think "why me?", then I look back and remember something I may have done or thought that I did not cast off and repent for. I think it is so important to take time each and every day to reflect on the day that just passed and recognize where we went wrong and ask for forgiveness, then focus our eyes back on our Heavenly Father who is there to pick us up and help us stay the course.
I know this post is really rambling, but I feel like that's what my mind is doing today, it's rambling. I go back to the beginning about all of those hurting so deeply. My heart is absolutely breaking for teens right now. I know of so many that are hurting and have such a difficult time getting out of the world to get their eyes back on God. I wish I could just reach in, wrap them up in a big hug, whisper in their ears that God so loves them that He gave His one and only precious baby boy to DIE for them. How can you look in the mirror and not see how preciuos you are?! God LOVES YOU!!!! I feel like Satan is on the war path to destroy marriage and our God has said "It's not time yet". I do know that I can storm the gates of Heaven on behalf of each marriage and each teenager and pray the blood of Jesus over each one. I do know that God has given me the power throught the Holy Spirit to stand in the gap for them when they can't seem to see the light (yet). We WILL win this battle. This is not a battle of flesh and blood, but a spiritual battle. Satan is already defeated in the Heavenly realm, we just need to keep up the good fight and defeat him here. I'm donning my spiritual battle gear today; my breatplate of righteousness, my sword of the His Holy Spirit, my feet are firmly planted in His truth, my helmet of salvation (no one can take that away!), and my shield of faith. Most days I do totally have the faith that can move mountains. I believe with all that is in me that God will restore marriages, he will save these hurting teens, He will cure these babies of cancer. God is on the move and He is much, much more powerful than that nasty, ugly Satan who is also prowling in our midst. We will defeat him!!!!!
Thank you Lord for the power of the cross! You have given each of us the power through the Holy Spirit to put Satan under our feet! I see Jesus riding the white horse to battle asking who will join him. I say to him "yes Lord, I will ride with you!" Some days the ride is so hard and I want to throw in the towel, but then I remember again that God tells us to not trust in our own understanding, His ways are so much higher. I will trust God today!! I will keep my eyes up not focusing on what I can see but focusing on His Word that shines the light on all that is evil. Light whens over darkness every time. We don't shine dark into the light, we shine light to overcome the dark.
I will ride with Jesus today!
I know this post is really rambling, but I feel like that's what my mind is doing today, it's rambling. I go back to the beginning about all of those hurting so deeply. My heart is absolutely breaking for teens right now. I know of so many that are hurting and have such a difficult time getting out of the world to get their eyes back on God. I wish I could just reach in, wrap them up in a big hug, whisper in their ears that God so loves them that He gave His one and only precious baby boy to DIE for them. How can you look in the mirror and not see how preciuos you are?! God LOVES YOU!!!! I feel like Satan is on the war path to destroy marriage and our God has said "It's not time yet". I do know that I can storm the gates of Heaven on behalf of each marriage and each teenager and pray the blood of Jesus over each one. I do know that God has given me the power throught the Holy Spirit to stand in the gap for them when they can't seem to see the light (yet). We WILL win this battle. This is not a battle of flesh and blood, but a spiritual battle. Satan is already defeated in the Heavenly realm, we just need to keep up the good fight and defeat him here. I'm donning my spiritual battle gear today; my breatplate of righteousness, my sword of the His Holy Spirit, my feet are firmly planted in His truth, my helmet of salvation (no one can take that away!), and my shield of faith. Most days I do totally have the faith that can move mountains. I believe with all that is in me that God will restore marriages, he will save these hurting teens, He will cure these babies of cancer. God is on the move and He is much, much more powerful than that nasty, ugly Satan who is also prowling in our midst. We will defeat him!!!!!
Thank you Lord for the power of the cross! You have given each of us the power through the Holy Spirit to put Satan under our feet! I see Jesus riding the white horse to battle asking who will join him. I say to him "yes Lord, I will ride with you!" Some days the ride is so hard and I want to throw in the towel, but then I remember again that God tells us to not trust in our own understanding, His ways are so much higher. I will trust God today!! I will keep my eyes up not focusing on what I can see but focusing on His Word that shines the light on all that is evil. Light whens over darkness every time. We don't shine dark into the light, we shine light to overcome the dark.
I will ride with Jesus today!
Sunday, February 28, 2010
Respect
Wow!
16 As the ark of the LORD was entering the City of David, Michal daughter of Saul watched from a window. And when she saw King David leaping and dancing before the LORD, she despised him in her heart.
17 They brought the ark of the LORD and set it in its place inside the tent that David had pitched for it, and David sacrificed burnt offerings and fellowship offerings f]" style="font-size: 0.75em; line-height: 0.5em; ">[f] before the LORD. 18 After he had finished sacrificing the burnt offerings and fellowship offerings, he blessed the people in the name of the LORD Almighty. 19 Then he gave a loaf of bread, a cake of dates and a cake of raisins to each person in the whole crowd of Israelites, both men and women. And all the people went to their homes.
20 When David returned home to bless his household, Michal daughter of Saul came out to meet him and said, "How the king of Israel has distinguished himself today, disrobing in the sight of the slave girls of his servants as any vulgar fellow would!"
21 David said to Michal, "It was before the LORD, who chose me rather than your father or anyone from his house when he appointed me ruler over the LORD's people Israel—I will celebrate before the LORD. 22 I will become even more undignified than this, and I will be humiliated in my own eyes. But by these slave girls you spoke of, I will be held in honor."
23 And Michal daughter of Saul had no children to the day of her death."
After my last post, I went on and read this.... I'm ashamed that I've probably felt this very same way before. I'm ashamed that I would look on my husband, whom I love, yet am called to respect, and have thought "look at you, how could you?". Do you see what God did to her? He struck her barren. Michal is the daughter that was given to David after he struck down Goliath. David had gone all the way back to Saul's camp to retrieve her. After the disgrace of Saul's death, he saved her from this same disgrace. Wow! I pray that I will never again be so disrespectful to my husband. God knows his heart and God has purpose in everything. When I read this text I am struck how ugly Michal seems. I can only imagine David coming and being so excited saying "Honey! Did you see?? We brought the ark back! Can you believe how good our God is?!" and then Michal turning to him with look of disgust and basically telling he is an idiot. How sad that moment must have been for David.
Lord,
I pray that I will remember how this text made me feel. I pray that I would never disgrace my husband by my thoughts or words. I pray I would never again judge my husband. show me how to respect him the way You have ordained for me to respect him. Give me a heart of gentleness, patience, kindness and goodness (particularly towards my husband whom I love).
In Christ's worthy name,
Amen!!!
I've been reading through David's life in both I Samuel and II Samuel( http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20Samuel%2010&version=NIV) and am struck by the practice of polygamy. Can you imagine? It's hard for a man to try to make us happy and love one wife, how miserable for those poor women . I can't imagine a life in which I am treated like an object with one purpose only. I Samuel talks about David's first wife Michal (Saul's daughter) that David must have cared something about, because after Saul gave her to another man, David went back after her. Or, women were basically like property then , so David just wanted what was rightfully his. Then, there was the wife of Nebal, Abigail, who David married after killing her husband for his greed. There were many, many more, including Bathsheba, that David married after basically raping her and having her husband killed. When I compare my married life today with that of these woman, I count myself as truly blessed!
I love my husband passionately, which I believe God made us as women to do. I, at times, find the respect part what I struggle with. I can't imagine desiring my husband and easily respecting him as King, however having little to no relationship with him and/or sharing that intimate relationship with many other women.
What can I learn from the wives of David? I guess, first of all, I can learn to look on my marriage with a sense of gratitude to God that He allowing me to be part of a monogamous marriage. Second, I can learn that we all have issues in our relationships, none are perfect, and that I need to seek out the good to dwell on each and every day; rather than dwell on the parts I'd like to change. Third, I need to learn how to truly be a servant to him. Of course, I mean a servant in the biblical sense of the word, not the earthly way we so often think of (treat) a servant. And lastly, I can learn how to respect my husband through all circumstances, even when I don't understand his ways (or His ways) or agree with his reasons.
God's Word truly is new every morning. I'm so thankful I live in a country that (for today) allows me the freedom to read my Bible openly, write a blog about Christ on a public forum, go to church and worship as boldly as I choose.....I pray that for today, I will show God how grateful I am.
Sunday, February 21, 2010
Colossians really rocked me today. Sometimes I wonder if God is just shaking His mighty head thinking when will they ever get it. It would be like us watching our precious children continuously running into a wall, crying and begging us to help them. We would look at them and say "I've already told you a hundred times, just don't run into the wall, sweetie."
God made peace with everything in heaven and on the earth by means of Christ's blood on the cross, including us; yet, somehow we constantly drift away from Him. We don't take the time to worship Him, we rush through our days relying on ourselves and not on Him (well of course, unless something bad happens, then we go to Him), we spend our money the way we want without first asking God how it would be better used to further His Kingdom, we speak to our spouse the way we want with whatever words we blurt out, rather than asking God to guide our words and actions so that our husband will see Christ in us.... You get the picture.... Then we wonder why we are in the mess we are in.
God tells us "in Him lay hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge." Yet, we go about seeking wisdom from the world and knowledge through our own ways. He has given us His Word and in America we have the freedom to have an hundred Bibles if we so choose, we can read it at work, in the car, at the public park, wherever, but we so often don't even take the time to read and meditate on His Word that will unveil true wisdom and knowledge to each of us.
If only I could/would read Colossians 3 every day, even memorize the whole thing, maybe I could find true peace in my life. We are raised to new life in Jesus. We don't have to be stuck where we are, we are NEW with Christ. We should be thinking about the things of Heaven not Earth. How many countless minutes do I spend worrying about the things of this world. If only I would keep my eyes up and not on what's all around me, I could save a lifetime of stress. If only I would put on my new nature every day and allow myself to be renewed without dwelling on the hurts of yesterday or the tasks left undone, then (and only then) could I truly clothe myself with tenderhearted mercy (think of a marriage where when things are going sideways you have mercy rather than discord or defensiveness), kindness (think about a marriage that repays hurt with loving kindness), humility (think of a marriage where we are more concerned about being humble before our husband rather being justified), gentleness (think of a marriage that we only are gentle, always, no matter what the circumstance) and patience (think of a marriage when despite the fact that we've asked 3 times to take out the garbage, we instead have the patience to just leave it there and trust God that if it is really that important our spouse will take it out). And then above all else, if I would just clothe myself with true, unconditional love each and every moment of each and every day, then (and only then) will we have the peace that comes from Christ ruling in our heart.
I give thanks to God, our Father, who gives us His Word each and every day. It truly is new every morning. I've read these scriptures a good hundred times before now, but today God spoke new wisdom and understanding to me. Until I can wrap my arms around these principles and unconsciously portray each of these attributes, I will not be where God wants me, thus my marriage will not be where I want it to be.
Take heart, God is HERE, He is speaking to each of us and He so desperately desires we just put our trust and hope in Him, and not the world.
Serving Him today.....
God made peace with everything in heaven and on the earth by means of Christ's blood on the cross, including us; yet, somehow we constantly drift away from Him. We don't take the time to worship Him, we rush through our days relying on ourselves and not on Him (well of course, unless something bad happens, then we go to Him), we spend our money the way we want without first asking God how it would be better used to further His Kingdom, we speak to our spouse the way we want with whatever words we blurt out, rather than asking God to guide our words and actions so that our husband will see Christ in us.... You get the picture.... Then we wonder why we are in the mess we are in.
God tells us "in Him lay hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge." Yet, we go about seeking wisdom from the world and knowledge through our own ways. He has given us His Word and in America we have the freedom to have an hundred Bibles if we so choose, we can read it at work, in the car, at the public park, wherever, but we so often don't even take the time to read and meditate on His Word that will unveil true wisdom and knowledge to each of us.
If only I could/would read Colossians 3 every day, even memorize the whole thing, maybe I could find true peace in my life. We are raised to new life in Jesus. We don't have to be stuck where we are, we are NEW with Christ. We should be thinking about the things of Heaven not Earth. How many countless minutes do I spend worrying about the things of this world. If only I would keep my eyes up and not on what's all around me, I could save a lifetime of stress. If only I would put on my new nature every day and allow myself to be renewed without dwelling on the hurts of yesterday or the tasks left undone, then (and only then) could I truly clothe myself with tenderhearted mercy (think of a marriage where when things are going sideways you have mercy rather than discord or defensiveness), kindness (think about a marriage that repays hurt with loving kindness), humility (think of a marriage where we are more concerned about being humble before our husband rather being justified), gentleness (think of a marriage that we only are gentle, always, no matter what the circumstance) and patience (think of a marriage when despite the fact that we've asked 3 times to take out the garbage, we instead have the patience to just leave it there and trust God that if it is really that important our spouse will take it out). And then above all else, if I would just clothe myself with true, unconditional love each and every moment of each and every day, then (and only then) will we have the peace that comes from Christ ruling in our heart.
I give thanks to God, our Father, who gives us His Word each and every day. It truly is new every morning. I've read these scriptures a good hundred times before now, but today God spoke new wisdom and understanding to me. Until I can wrap my arms around these principles and unconsciously portray each of these attributes, I will not be where God wants me, thus my marriage will not be where I want it to be.
Take heart, God is HERE, He is speaking to each of us and He so desperately desires we just put our trust and hope in Him, and not the world.
Serving Him today.....
Friday, February 19, 2010
Day 2 of this thing that is so not me, but I feel God calling me to do sooooo I'm hoping He'll write through my fingers. A Day in the Life is meant to encourage us married ladies. I know 99% of us are all going through, have been ,or will go through pretty much the same craziness in our marriages and I so badly want women to know they are not alone and their marriage is NOT over just because you aren't getting along. A friend of mine the other day told me her husband told her he didn't love her anymore. My first worldly thought is "What a jerk!!! How could you be so blind, don't you see how beautiful she is. You are one lucky jerk!", then I caught myself and remembered all of the times God has gently spoken to me and said "He doesn't mean it, that is his hurt speaking, or his pride, or his insecurities, etc." When I can get past my worldly self and get back to where God can whisper into my ear, I can so often get back to that place where God has called each of us wives, which is a place of respect. We all think, "How can I possibly respect my husband who just told me he doesn't love me?". I'm here to tell you, "WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE!!!" I so vividly remember one day my husband had said something so ugly to me, I didn't know how to respond, so I just ran. When I finally came to my senses and realized I couldn't keep running forever (though I tried for a very long time-mentally obviusly not physically), I fell to my knees and asked God to please show me how to respect my husband.
I find it so interesting that God doesn't tell us women to LOVE our husbands. He tells us to RESPECT them. I think He tells us that because He knows we will always love even the unlovable thing/person, it is in our God given nature, to love and nurture. But, it is not so easy for us women to RESPECT. There are days I have to go back and google the word so I can remember what it means. Wikipedia says respect is "Respect denotes both a positive feeling of esteem for a person or other entity (such as a nation or a religion), and also specific actions and conduct representative of that esteem. Respect can be a specific feeling of regard for the actual qualities of the one respected (e.g., "I have great respect for her judgment"). It can also be conduct in accord with a specific ethic of respect. Rude conduct is usually considered to indicate a lack of respect, whereas actions that honor somebody or something indicate respect." Notice here that is says there is a specific action or conduct that represent the positive feeling/esteem. So it goes back, how we act towards our husband that reflects how we respect him.
Just the other night my husband was working on a project with my son. I knew he had not read the specific instructions for the project, however it was our fourth or fifth year doing the same project. I prayed that I would stay out of it, knowing full well that if I butted in it would show disrespect for my husband. I did really well for about 70% of the time. But, guess what?! I BLEW IT!!!! I meandered into the kitchen, listening to what they were doing and just couldn't hold my tongue. I blurted out "That's not how you do it. The instructions say........" Even now, 4 days later, I am still baffled at myself. I knew I shouldn't say anything, yet I did it anyway. What was the outcome, you say? Well, he stormed off, saying "If you want it done your way, you do it". I must say a part of me (that worldly part again) thought "well good, now I get to do it my way", but my real self was crushed. Why did I do that? Why didn't I hold my tongue? Why did I go into the kitchen? Long story-short. I came back and profusely apologized, acknowledging what I did was wrong and reminded him that I love him and was so thankful he was willing to help. Now, I'm still on the road to asking God to guide my every word, my every facial expression, my every gesture. I so deeply want to portray a spirit of respect for my husband, yet I let myself get in God's way time and time again.
Ladies, we will keep taking one day at a time. But I encourage you today, no matter where you are in your relationship. Pray for wisdom and for God to help you with those specific actions that reflect the respect that you have (or will have with God's grace) for your husband.
In His Service,
Me
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Just a thought
Wow!!! I really feel that God is doing something here. He has brought me to such an amazing place in my life and I'm looking forward to sharing it here. Hopefully anyone who reads will be blessed, encouraged and their Faith will increase.
Today it the beginning of something great.
Today it the beginning of something great.
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